Apr 23, 2014

To my Dear Wife: Happy Birthday!




On my blog, I usually write about subjects related to fatherhood. However, that is only one part of my parenthood experience. As much as I love my children and do my best to be the best dad I can be, the truth is that I don’t do it alone. I’m fortunate enough to have my wife, April as the ultimate co parent and overall support system.
Since today is her birthday, I thought I’d take a moment to celebrate it by writing a little bit about what she means to our family.

As a mother, she consistently goes above and beyond for the sake of our kids. She's worked hard to earn her two degrees a has  number of career goals. However, she has selflessly put them on hold in order to care for our boys full time as a stay at home mom. The transition from a “normal” job to life as a SAHM has been more challenging than either of us could have ever imagined. At home, there’s rarely any time for luxuries such as lunch breaks or quiet moments of self-reflection. There’s only the constant running around, and the exhausting, often thankless daily tasks that are required to keep two young children engaged, happy and loved. Where some people would be at a breaking point, I am in complete awe watching her as she wakes up each and every morning and handles it with the grace and patience that I only could only aspire to attain.

As a wife, I couldn’t have asked for a better partner. Ever the loving and caring person, she is always looking out for my interests. She challenges me to become a better husband and father by showing me how to better communicate with her as well as with my kids. We've been through rough patches that would have torn lesser couples apart and have come out the other side stronger than ever. I know that I am far from the perfect husband, but somehow, she loves me for who I am and I'm grateful. She my best friend, my rock and I really don’t know what I’d do without her.
So from the botton of my heart, thank you April for all that you do for our family. I love you and...
Happy birthday!


Apr 8, 2014

MLB Player Daniel Murphy Takes Paternity Leave-and Gets Criticized for it

In the great game of baseball, the athletes who we admire the most are not only measured by the number of home runs hit, bases stolen or strikeouts caused, but also by the integrity that they carried themselves with both on and off the field. So when Mets second baseman Daniel Murphy took 3 days off to support his wife during the birth of their child, you wouldn’t think that it would make too many waves. However, because he missed the first two games of the season he was the recipient of a lot of negative backlash, most notably, from sports hosts Mike Francesa and Boomer Esiason:


I might be a little biased (okay, a lot biased), but I don’t get it. For me, being present for the birth of both of my children was arguably two of the greatest moments of my life. To this day, I get a lump in my throat when I regale my 4 year old with the story of his birth and how excited and overjoyed I was to welcome him into the world.  I’m certain that Mr. Murphy’s experience with his family was just as special and the fact that he happens to be a baseball player does not in any shape or form diminish his right to be a part of those moments, especially if the terms of his MLB contract explicitly permits it.

It’s no secret that when it comes to parental leave, dads tend to get the short end of the stick. This, despite that fact that paternity leave is beneficial for the entire family, makes the disparaging comments made by Francesa and Esiason all the more disheartening.

Hopefully the media attention that this situation has garnered will put a spotlight on the importance of paternity leave and encourage guys to exercise their rights, no matter what their occupation. The outrage over the backlash has at the very least softened the heart of Esiason- he offered up what seemed to be a sincere apology days after his initial remarks.

At the end of the day, when the game of baseball is nothing but a memory and he’s long been retired, it will be his family who will still be there and will love him regardless of his stats. In their eyes, he's not just a ball player- he's a dad who has earned his place in their hall of fame for all time.

Mar 25, 2014

The Flaws in Kid Logic

It started out like any other night- my 4 year old and I were about halfway though our nighttime routine and were in the bathroom brushing our teeth. He's not quite tall enough to reach the sink, so he needed to go on his step stool in order to spit out his toothpaste. As I wiped off his mouth, something on the counter caught his eye.
"Daddy, what's that?"
"It's just some baking soda"
His eyes lit up. "Oooh. Can I try some?"
Perplexed, I simply explained to him that baking soda is really gross and he really wouldn't want to taste it. I tried to divert his attention by trying to get him to tell me what book we were going to read, but he was undeterred. He quickly reached in the box of baking soda, grabbed a pinch and put it into his mouth before I was able to stop him.
There was no need to wash his mouth out because his face immediately began to grimace and he started spitting and wiped his tongue off with the sleeve of his shirt.
"See? I told you it was gross", I affirmed as I got him a glass of water.
"But Daddy", he says with a sad and confused look. "You said that it was "Bacon-Soda", so I thought it would taste good."
That's when I realized that when I told him that the contents of the Arm & Hammer box was "baking soda", he was under the impression that I would taste like something along the lines of this:

In any case, we both learned a valuable lesson. He learned that if his dad tells him to not eat something, he probably shouldn't. As for me; I learned that when I am explaining what something is to a 4 year old, I need to do a better job pronouncing my words.